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Set Boundaries that Help you Reclaim your Identity



Unlock the secrets to setting transformative "thicc mami boundaries" and regain control over your life. Discover why eldest daughters, women, and millennials often struggle with boundary-setting due to ingrained people-pleasing habits. I'll help you shift your perspective from viewing boundaries as isolating barriers to seeing them as empowering gates, letting in nurturing relationships and keeping negativity at bay.

In a world where we're often conditioned to prioritize others over ourselves, many of us struggle with setting boundaries. We’ll explore why we find it challenging, the misconceptions surrounding boundaries, and how you can start building and maintaining these important limits in your life. Whether you're tired of people-pleasing or ready to take a stand for your own well-being, this episode is for you. 

Episode Highlights: 

Understanding Boundaries: Many women are conditioned to prioritize others' comfort over their own, leading to difficulties in setting and maintaining boundaries. I discuss how this conditioning impacts your ability to say no and protect your mental health.

Misconceptions about Boundaries: The idea that boundaries are an all-or-nothing approach is a common misconception. I emphasize the importance of finding a balance, likening it to turning walls into gates to allow healthy relationships while keeping unhealthy ones out.
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Challenging Societal Norms: Delve into the societal pressures that compel mothers and eldest daughters to prioritize others' needs above their own. Together, we'll challenge the notion that selflessness is a virtue and redefine what it truly means to care for ourselves while still supporting our loved ones.

Three Action Steps to Take:

Self-Reflection: Regularly ask yourself, "Does this support the life I'm trying to create?" and be honest in your assessment.
Slow Down: Take your time when making decisions. Allow yourself to breathe and respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.

Practice Saying No: Start using "no" as a complete sentence. You don't owe anyone an explanation for prioritizing your well-being.

Journaling Prompts:

Why do I believe that other people's comfort is more important than my own?

Why do I feel that self-sacrifice is the only answer?

ConclusionCreating and maintaining boundaries is essential for your mental and emotional health. As you embrace this process, remember that you have the power to rewrite the rules for yourself. Surround yourself with people who respect your boundaries, and don’t be afraid to let go of those who don’t. 

Next week’s episode we're going to be talking about trashing cultural norms. This is going to be a fun one, because this is going to be kind of like part two to this episode of setting and maintaining boundaries.

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Time Stamps:

00:00:00 - Introduction and Welcome to the Episode
00:00:08 - Empowerment Through Thicc Mami Boundaries
00:05:08 - Creating & Maintaining Healthy Boundaries
00:11:59 - Importance of Setting Boundaries in Relationships
00:19:34 - Cultural Norms & Thicc Mami Boundaries
00:21:34 - Preview of the Next Episode on Cultural Norms
00:22:00 - Closing Remarks

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Overcoming Societal Labels to Discover Your True Self



Ever felt confined by societal labels and expectations? I sure did until I discovered the transformative power of holistic healing practices. In this very first episode of "F that," I, Alexis, recount my journey of overcoming stress and navigating complex family dynamics through somatic work, human design, and numerology. These tools not only helped me uncover my life's purpose but also illuminated how restrictive societal labels can be. By sharing my personal experiences, I aim to inspire you to break free from these constraints and embrace a path of true self-love and abundance.

Episode Highlights: 

Empowerment and Rejection of Societal Labels: Many individuals find themselves constrained by societal labels and expectations, which can limit their sense of self-worth and hinder their pursuit of authentic desires. This episode emphasizes the importance of rejecting these labels to embrace one's true identity. It encourages listeners, particularly women, to acknowledge their intrinsic value and actively seek fulfillment beyond societal constraints.


Holistic Healing Practices: Discovering one's purpose and managing life's challenges can be supported through holistic healing practices. The episode explores various methods such as somatic work, human design, and numerology. These practices offer pathways to personal transformation, helping individuals navigate stress and intricate family dynamics, ultimately fostering greater self-love and abundance.


Personal Boundaries and Self-Care: Establishing robust personal boundaries is crucial for safeguarding one's energy, as highlighted in the concept of "thick mommy boundaries." The episode advocates for the importance of self-care and setting boundaries, especially for parents. It challenges traditional expectations, particularly those imposed on mothers, and underscores the need for maintaining personal well-being.


Three Action Steps to Take:

Reflect on Limiting Labels: Write down the labels or roles you've been given by society, family, or even yourself. Ask yourself which ones feel limiting and no longer serve your happiness or growth.

Journal on Your True Desires: Use the prompts shared in the episode to explore what you truly want in life, separate from external expectations. Focus on how you'd like to reclaim your power and shape your future.

Take One Step Toward Change: Identify one small action you can take today to break free from a limiting belief or label. It could be setting a boundary, saying no to something that doesn't align with your goals, or trying a new healing practice.


Journaling Prompts:

Why don't I believe I'm worthy of being greater than my label?

If I could be anyone, who would I be and why am I not that person right now? What keeps me from that?


Conclusion: “The time to trash what you think you know and open up to a world of possibilities is now.”

Next week’s episode we're going to be talking about how to create and maintain what I note as thicc mami boundaries that protect your energy.



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Time Stamps:

00:00:02 - Introduction and Welcome to "F that" Podcast
00:00:37 - Explaining the Provocative Podcast Title
00:02:00 - Alexis' Journey to Reclaiming Personal Power
00:04:15 - Overcoming Stress and Family Dynamics through Holistic Healing
00:06:30 - Discovering Life's Purpose with Human Design and Numerology
00:08:45 - Challenging Societal Labels and Expectations
00:10:00 - The Importance of Self-Love and Abundance
00:12:30 - Introduction to Topics: Money, Culture, Family Dynamics
00:14:11 - Embracing Power Beyond Societal Limits
00:15:00 - Rejecting Patriarchal Constraints and Embracing Authenticity
00:16:30 - Establishing "Thicc Mami Boundaries"
00:18:00 - Invitation to Subscribe, Rate, and Share the Podcast
00:19:30 - Closing Remarks and Future Episode Preview

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Meet Alexis Frank

There are three things in life I’ve never enjoyed being: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want.

Three things in life I had been for awhile: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want (first world problems, am I right?)

Those things served a purpose in my life, but no longer suited who I believe to be, the best version of myself. 

Let me give you some background

My brother and I were raised by a single mother, in NYC, who dedicated her life to teaching special education students. It goes without saying that we never had a lot of money. We never questioned where our next meal was coming from and we got to travel to beautiful places (on a tight budget of course), but we knew the reality of our finances at a very young age.

So in order to save my mother the ungodly burden of co-signing on loans for college, I joined the Army at 17, which for 6 years, made me both tired and uncomfortable in my clothes (those boots were not the business). But it was at this point, I experienced having money, and I knew I liked that. But the rest had to go.

I met my husband before I got out of the military, and we had our son. I worked for a few small businesses, spent some time as a SAHM, which I loathed (don’t judge, it ain’t for everyone), and finished up a few degrees. This left me both tired and unable to afford the things I wanted (which was just a nice vacation without a screaming baby for two nights). So again, I knew something had to change.

Fast forward to when we got the opportunity to change duty stations. I was finishing up my MBA and I was able to finally land a position in corporate America, which I thought I had always wanted (Alexa: play “living the American dream). I tried my best to make the most of it and to be grateful for the opportunity, but my commute was horrible, my pantsuits were tight (I was pregnant with our third child), my heels hurt, and most of my meetings could have been emails. 

Then the pandemic hit, and I got to work from home. As horrible as it was, I finally thought to myself “this is how I do it. I get to work from home in my pajamas, make money, spend more time with my kids, and take naps.” But I was wrong again.

When my husband changed duty stations again, I was placed on a high profile program with my company that demanded mandatory overtime. I knew then that corporate life was never going to give me the time freedom I needed, and that starting my business was the only way I could build the life I wanted which included leggings and vacations.

The Filing Cabinet was born out of my realization that I had been coaching people ever since my teenage years. My friends and colleagues have always seen me as the go-to expert for pretty much any issues they have ever had. I pride myself on that, and I want to use over 15 years of that experience to coach you through leaving your corporate job, realizing your entrepreneurial potential, and helping you scale your life and business to unprecedented heights (and in your sweatpants, if you’re anything like me).

There is no blanket version of success, and I suspect you are here because you are tired of the version we have been sold. We don’t dream of labor and hustle culture is toxic in our eyes. But we have the drive to build something big, so that we can take advantage of the fruits of our labor, far sooner rather than later

Are you finally ready to spend more time doing things that light up your soul? Then let’s get started

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