Recently, the universe has invited me to upgrade my impact (again)....
Through my almost 4 years in business, I have changed my "niche" more times than I can count. But what was actually happening was I was upgrading and stepping even further into my purpose.
It started with helping women grow their businesses using mind mapping and organizational tools, now I consider myself to be The Governor of Leadership.
I am creating governance through which all leadership flows.
To be blunt: I decide what leadership is.
It takes a large amount of self-awareness to stake my claim as The Governor of Leadership, some might even argue that it's arrogant. What other people argue isn't my business.
The universe has given me this assignment and there is nothing else in life for me to excel at but this. My work will impact hundreds of millions of lives, this I have always known.
But the path I'm traveling to create that impact has become even more clear, and for that I'm grateful.
So with that being said, the universe blessed me quite profoundly the other morning with my first piece of governance: The 5 Commitments of the Unprecedented Leader.
All of my clients are leaders who are building things that have either never existed before or they are completely revamping outdated systems. Either way, there is no structured precedent or blueprint for them to follow.
And because of this, they lack direction for how their leadership should look and feel during their build.
This is where the 5 Commitments come in.
We live in an age where anything built in the dark will eventually come to the light. These 5 commitments assure that unprecedented leaders only build in the light and create a new wave of leadership and human infrastructure that is committed to diversity, evolution, and transparency.
The way things should have always been before greed, capitalism, patriarchy, and white supremacy got in the way.
So below, you'll find the 5 Commitments and what they require of you as an unprecedented leader.
Please allow yourself to soak them in. To feel the responsibility of what is being asked of you as a leader who is building from scratch.
And remember that my 1:1 work is always available to you when you are ready to accept full responsibility for the calling you have on your life.
The 5 Commitments of the Unprecedented Leader
Any leader or founder building something that has never existed before or is working to improve a severely outdated system must adhere to these commitments.
Commitment to the self
Not in a selfish way
But a commitment to knowing yourself, trusting yourself, to deepening your relationship with who you really are.
This is the cornerstone of everything it is you will build.
Commitment to Diversity
Building something that has never been built before requires it to be built using different voices and perspectives in order to preserve all of humanity.
All genders, ethnicities, races, cultures, brain spectrums, ages, and sexual orientations
Commitment to Releasing the Status Quo
Not building according to what others dictate to be “best practice”
When building something unprecedented, there is no best practice.
There is only trust in the self and the collective minds to establish an entirely new infrastructure.
Commitment to Transparency & Communication
When building something completely new, leaders must be open and transparent about what they are building because of its effect on humanity or the constituency it governs.
This commitment also inherently demands honesty and truth because that is naturally what transparency and regular communication requires.
Commitment to Evolution
Recognizing that everything changes and must evolve over time. Stubbornness and attempting to remain the same does more damage to what was built than evolution ever could.
An excellent embodiment for all 5 of these commitments is NYC Mayor Zohran Mamdani. He is unlike any leader the city of New York has seen before.
His cabinet is diverse (I mean he made Stanley Richards, an ex-Rikers inmate, head of the Department of Corrections)!
His social media is full of transparent communication about every decision he makes.
He knows the way NYC has been run has stifled the growth of the city and it's citizens and he is committed to its evolution.
He refuses to take notes from his predecessors who have only helped the rich.
And you can just tell that he trusted himself in his run for mayor. He knew within his whole body that he could do this job. And he is. Quite well.
This is what leadership should have always looked like. But there were no true guidelines to hold the magnitude of it.
Now there is. Because I have created and spoken life into it.
I'm excited to see where you leadership takes you, now that you have governance to show you the way.
There’s a lot of talk these days about how society has become hyper-individualistic — and while that’s not untrue, I want to make something very clear:
Individualism and self-preservation are not the same thing.
And confusing the two? That’s where the real harm happens — especially for people learning how to lead, parent, create, or exist in this world without burning themselves to the ground.
I teach leadership through self-preservation.
But the more I watch the world online, the more I realize how many people are calling survival “selfish” or equating self-preservation with narcissism.
But the more I watch the world online, the more I realize how many people are calling survival “selfish” or equating self-preservation with narcissism.
So let’s break this down.
Individualism is a Trauma Response
Let’s be real: individualism is a symptom.
A side effect of living under patriarchy and capitalism for way too long.
A side effect of living under patriarchy and capitalism for way too long.
Patriarchy tells you your worth is tied to how much you provide.
Capitalism tells you your worth is tied to how much you produce.
Capitalism tells you your worth is tied to how much you produce.
So you spend years — decades — providing and producing.
For your kids, your job, your partner, your community.
And what do you get in return?
For your kids, your job, your partner, your community.
And what do you get in return?
For most people, the answer is: nothing.
No rest.
No peace.
No support.
No peace.
No support.
And then one day, you wake up angry.
You say, What about me?
You say, What about me?
You’re bitter. You’re exhausted. You’re tapped out.
So you swing hard in the opposite direction — into me, me, me.
Into hyper-individualism.
So you swing hard in the opposite direction — into me, me, me.
Into hyper-individualism.
Into a survival response masked as self-focus.
But it’s not self-love — it’s self-protection built on resentment.
But it’s not self-love — it’s self-protection built on resentment.
That’s not leadership. That’s a nervous system collapse.
Self-Preservation Is Innate
Now let’s talk about what self-preservation actually is.
It’s not narcissism. It’s not a tantrum. It’s not spiritual bypassing.
Self-preservation is sacred.
It’s instinctual.
It’s that quiet, inner knowing that says:
It’s instinctual.
It’s that quiet, inner knowing that says:
“If I don’t take care of myself first, I’ll have nothing left to give.”
It’s not rooted in bitterness — it’s rooted in love.
It’s the difference between survival mode and sustainable wholeness.
Because someone who’s self-preserving isn’t closing off the world — they’re fortifying themselves so they can show up for it with more capacity.
When you self-preserve, you’re saying:
I want to pour from a full cup.
I want to give, but not from depletion.
I want to lead, but not from martyrdom.
I want to pour from a full cup.
I want to give, but not from depletion.
I want to lead, but not from martyrdom.
Here’s the Difference You Can Feel
The energy doesn’t lie.
Individualism repels.
It says, “I’m out for myself and screw everyone else.”
And people feel it. They walk away from it. They don’t want to be around it.
It says, “I’m out for myself and screw everyone else.”
And people feel it. They walk away from it. They don’t want to be around it.
Self-preservation attracts.
It says, “I care enough about my impact that I’m making sure I’m whole before I try to serve others.”
It says, “I care enough about my impact that I’m making sure I’m whole before I try to serve others.”
And when people feel that?
They want it too.
It inspires a ripple effect — a quiet revolution of regulated, grounded, self-led humans who still care about community because they first cared about themselves.
They want it too.
It inspires a ripple effect — a quiet revolution of regulated, grounded, self-led humans who still care about community because they first cared about themselves.
Leadership Through Self-Preservation
When you lead through self-preservation, you’re magnetic.
You’re not demanding attention — you’re embodying it.
People look at you and say:
You’re not demanding attention — you’re embodying it.
People look at you and say:
“Damn, she takes care of herself — and she still shows up with power and generosity.”
That’s the kind of energy that builds movements.
That’s the kind of leadership that heals instead of harms.
That’s the kind of leadership that heals instead of harms.
So no — self-preservation isn’t selfish.
It’s not individualistic.
It’s not individualistic.
It’s the antidote to burnout, bitterness, and performative power.
And if you’ve ever been made to feel guilty for choosing yourself —
Let me say this plainly:
Let me say this plainly:
The world doesn’t need more martyrs.
It needs more leaders who refuse to lead from depletion.
It needs more leaders who refuse to lead from depletion.
