You Think You’re Healing, But You’re Really Not

01/21/2025 03:00 AM Central
Alexis Frank
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After enduring the emotional whirlwind of birth trauma and initially leaning on antidepressants for relief, I discovered that true healing required confronting emotions head-on. Join me as I unravel the layers of emotional distress, challenging the notion that spa days and social media trends can heal deep wounds. Together, we question society's quick-fix mentality, exploring the deeper roots of health, self-worth, and mental well-being.

Societal pressures often lead us to believe in superficial solutions, but real progress lies in embracing the uncomfortable task of facing trauma directly. I share my journey of transitioning off SSRIs, highlighting the challenging yet rewarding path to emotional clarity that goes beyond medication. Cutting toxic people from your life isn't enough—true transformation involves healing the underlying patterns and reclaiming your personal power and identity.

Shifting focus from external blame to internal growth, this episode invites you to explore the concept of being a vibrational match in life. By addressing unresolved issues and engaging in introspective practices like EFT and hypnosis, we can break free from recurring negative patterns. I encourage aspiring entrepreneurs to harness this transformative mindset as they embark on building six-figure businesses, assuring them that they're not alone in their journey toward success and self-mastery.

Episode Highlights:

Exploring True Healing vs. Temporary Fixes:

Genuine healing requires addressing root causes, not just symptoms, and engaging in meaningful approaches.

Exploring Healing Beyond Temporary Solutions:

Spa days and surface-level self-care may not address deeper emotional issues, and quick fixes like weight loss meds may not address underlying health and identity issues.

Going Beyond Temporary Healing Solutions:

Unresolved issues and unhealed wounds can lead to patterns of attracting negative relationships. Somatic work is necessary for true healing and transformation.

Three Action Steps to Take:

Identify Avoidance Areas: Reflect on the aspects of your life where you're using temporary fixes instead of pursuing genuine healing. This could involve activities like spa days, relying on medication, or cutting people off without addressing the underlying issues. Acknowledge these areas and be honest with yourself about where you might be avoiding deeper emotional work.

Commit to Deeper Healing Actions: Choose a specific action that goes beyond surface-level healing. This might involve scheduling a therapy session, starting a daily journaling practice, or exploring somatic healing techniques such as Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) or hypnosis. The goal is to engage in practices that facilitate deeper introspection and healing.

Track Your Healing Journey: Create a healing journal to document your progress. Record the areas you're working on, how you're feeling, and the steps you're taking toward deeper healing. This practice can help you maintain focus on your personal development and recognize patterns or breakthroughs in your journey toward genuine emotional liberation and empowerment.

Journaling Prompts:

Prompt Action Step: Take a moment to identify where you're using a temporary fix, like spa days, meds, cutting people off, instead of pursuing real healing. Have this moment with yourself. Give yourself this moment, bask in it. Nobody's judging you.

Conclusion: True healing is an inside job. It's about confronting your deepest emotions and breaking free from superficial solutions that society often promotes. You have the power to transform your trauma into a source of strength, moving beyond temporary fixes like spa days or medications. By embracing introspection and facing your core wounds, you can create lasting change and empowerment. This journey isn't easy, but it's essential for reclaiming your personal power and achieving the life and business success you desire. You are capable of more than just surviving—it's time to truly thrive.

Next week’s episode we're talking about what you actually need to start a six and seven-figure business and the foundation of that.

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Meet Alexis Frank

There are three things in life I’ve never enjoyed being: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want.

Three things in life I had been for awhile: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want (first world problems, am I right?)

Those things served a purpose in my life, but no longer suited who I believe to be, the best version of myself.

Let me give you some background

My brother and I were raised by a single mother, in NYC, who dedicated her life to teaching special education students. It goes without saying that we never had a lot of money. We never questioned where our next meal was coming from and we got to travel to beautiful places (on a tight budget of course), but we knew the reality of our finances at a very young age.

So in order to save my mother the ungodly burden of co-signing on loans for college, I joined the Army at 17, which for 6 years, made me both tired and uncomfortable in my clothes (those boots were not the business). But it was at this point, I experienced having money, and I knew I liked that. But the rest had to go.

I met my husband before I got out of the military, and we had our son. I worked for a few small businesses, spent some time as a SAHM, which I loathed (don’t judge, it ain’t for everyone), and finished up a few degrees. This left me both tired and unable to afford the things I wanted (which was just a nice vacation without a screaming baby for two nights). So again, I knew something had to change.

Fast forward to when we got the opportunity to change duty stations. I was finishing up my MBA and I was able to finally land a position in corporate America, which I thought I had always wanted (Alexa: play “living the American dream). I tried my best to make the most of it and to be grateful for the opportunity, but my commute was horrible, my pantsuits were tight (I was pregnant with our third child), my heels hurt, and most of my meetings could have been emails.

Then the pandemic hit, and I got to work from home. As horrible as it was, I finally thought to myself “this is how I do it. I get to work from home in my pajamas, make money, spend more time with my kids, and take naps.” But I was wrong again.

When my husband changed duty stations again, I was placed on a high profile program with my company that demanded mandatory overtime. I knew then that corporate life was never going to give me the time freedom I needed, and that starting my business was the only way I could build the life I wanted which included leggings and vacations.

The Filing Cabinet was born out of my realization that I had been coaching people ever since my teenage years. My friends and colleagues have always seen me as the go-to expert for pretty much any issues they have ever had. I pride myself on that, and I want to use over 15 years of that experience to coach you through leaving your corporate job, realizing your entrepreneurial potential, and helping you scale your life and business to unprecedented heights (and in your sweatpants, if you’re anything like me).

There is no blanket version of success, and I suspect you are here because you are tired of the version we have been sold. We don’t dream of labor and hustle culture is toxic in our eyes. But we have the drive to build something big, so that we can take advantage of the fruits of our labor, far sooner rather than later

Are you finally ready to spend more time doing things that light up your soul? Then let’s get started

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