What Fuels Your Independence?

"Alexa: play 'Independent Woman' by Destiny’s Child."

As the eldest daughter, you were raised to be fiercely independent, and I love that for you. You've grown into a self-sustaining individual, and achieving that on your own is no small feat. Your journey of independence is both admirable and inspiring.

However, it's important to recognize that life isn't meant to be navigated in solitude. If your independence brings you genuine fulfillment, then that's fantastic. But if your independence stems from a place of previous neglect, abuse, or living in a perpetual state of fight or flight, that's not true personal power.

Intention is crucial. When your independence is driven by fear and pain rather than power and self-fulfillment, it's time to reassess and find balance. Independence rooted in fear can hold you back from achieving greater wealth and forming mutually beneficial and loving relationships that you truly deserve.

So, if you sense that your independence could come from a place of positive intention, and you aspire to attain more wealth and personal power from your inherent genius of independence, it’s time to embrace that change.

Steps to embrace healthy independence 

Reflect on Your Motivations

Take a moment to introspect and understand the roots of your independence. Are you driven by fear or past trauma? Or does your independence stem from a place of strength and self-fulfillment?

We know that you can do bad all by yourself, but you're not meant to. And maintaining independence because you fear being hurt again, will actually invite more hurt. Life is meant to be shared with others. You are meant to lean on others. Allow that to happen.

Shift Your Mindset

Transition your perspective from one of survival to one of thriving. Embrace the idea that you deserve abundance, love, and support in your life. When you base your future on your past, your past then becomes your future. 

If you assume people will always let you down, then you will always attract people that will continue to let you down. The version of you who thrives, relies on a support system and rests knowing that she is supported fully by those around her. And her sense of independence comes from a place being fulfilled, not being abandoned.

Empower Yourself

Focus on personal growth and empowerment. Engage in activities that boost your confidence and help you realize your true potential.

When was the last time you engaged in a hobby or exercise that brought you pure joy? Again, the version of you that is thriving is taking her independence and using it to fuel her happiness, not just her survival.

You have an insane amount of personal power through your independence, make sure you're using it to pour into yourself.

Attract Abundance

When you approach independence with a positive mindset, you open doors to greater opportunities. Believe that you are deserving of wealth and loving relationships.


Let's wrap this up

Independence isn't about doing everything on your own. It's about knowing when to stand strong and when to seek support. 

It's about finding fulfillment and empowerment in your choices. By shifting your intention from fear to self-fulfillment, you unlock a new level of personal power and potential.

Remember, you are deserving of all the wealth, love, and support that life has to offer. Embrace your independence with a positive intention, and watch as your life transforms in ways you never imagined.

And if you know you need more hands-on support and accountability with putting this tips into action, and you're ready to reclaim your personal power


I can't wait to support you! Laterrrrrrrrrrr

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Meet Alexis Frank

 
There are three things in life I’ve never enjoyed being: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want.

Three things in life I had been for awhile: tired, uncomfortable in my clothes, and unable to afford the things I want (first world problems, am I right?)

Those things served a purpose in my life, but no longer suited who I believe to be, the best version of myself. 

Let me give you some background

My brother and I were raised by a single mother, in NYC, who dedicated her life to teaching special education students. It goes without saying that we never had a lot of money. We never questioned where our next meal was coming from and we got to travel to beautiful places (on a tight budget of course), but we knew the reality of our finances at a very young age.

So in order to save my mother the ungodly burden of co-signing on loans for college, I joined the Army at 17, which for 6 years, made me both tired and uncomfortable in my clothes (those boots were not the business). But it was at this point, I experienced having money, and I knew I liked that. But the rest had to go.

I met my husband before I got out of the military, and we had our son. I worked for a few small businesses, spent some time as a SAHM, which I loathed (don’t judge, it ain’t for everyone), and finished up a few degrees. This left me both tired and unable to afford the things I wanted (which was just a nice vacation without a screaming baby for two nights). So again, I knew something had to change.

Fast forward to when we got the opportunity to change duty stations. I was finishing up my MBA and I was able to finally land a position in corporate America, which I thought I had always wanted (Alexa: play “living the American dream). I tried my best to make the most of it and to be grateful for the opportunity, but my commute was horrible, my pantsuits were tight (I was pregnant with our third child), my heels hurt, and most of my meetings could have been emails. 

Then the pandemic hit, and I got to work from home. As horrible as it was, I finally thought to myself “this is how I do it. I get to work from home in my pajamas, make money, spend more time with my kids, and take naps.” But I was wrong again.

When my husband changed duty stations again, I was placed on a high profile program with my company that demanded mandatory overtime. I knew then that corporate life was never going to give me the time freedom I needed, and that starting my business was the only way I could build the life I wanted which included leggings and vacations.

The Filing Cabinet was born out of my realization that I had been coaching people ever since my teenage years. My friends and colleagues have always seen me as the go-to expert for pretty much any issues they have ever had. I pride myself on that, and I want to use over 15 years of that experience to coach you through leaving your corporate job, realizing your entrepreneurial potential, and helping you scale your life and business to unprecedented heights (and in your sweatpants, if you’re anything like me).

There is no blanket version of success, and I suspect you are here because you are tired of the version we have been sold. We don’t dream of labor and hustle culture is toxic in our eyes. But we have the drive to build something big, so that we can take advantage of the fruits of our labor, far sooner rather than later

Are you finally ready to spend more time doing things that light up your soul? Then let’s get started

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